The Second Silliest Thing You Can Do.

Your boy tells you he wants to be a girl, or your girl says she wants to be a boy, what is the second silliest thing you can do?

Recently I saw a piece of advice by a man concerned by the sudden epidemic of children claiming they are transgender. He was against the idea of providing 'support' for this nonsense.

If you are also against it, if you understand that it is not possible to 'be born into the wrong body'  or to change sex,  then what should you do?  What if your boy says he wants to be a girl?

The advice this man gave was that you should try and steer him towards male interests - sports, especially rough contact sports, and toy trucks rather than dolls.  And firmly steer him away from an interest in the arts or women's dress.

That is a very silly piece of advice in my opinion,  the second silliest thing you can do in the circumstances.  The effect is likely to be the exact opposite to the one intended.  If you try and force a boy to be more 'boyish,'  if you try to stop him following his own interests, his own inclinations, the likely result is that he will revolt against you, and further revolt against the male role you are trying to force him into.  He will be more determined that he is 'really' a girl,  and with the way things are at the moment, you may find that his school and even the state will try and 'help' the child on the way to pretend girlhood, even when the parents disagree.

It is a similar thing if a girl declares she would prefer to be a boy.

Do not put her in frilly dresses and then tell her she cannot play in the sandpit for fear of being dirty.

Do not give her Barbie dolls when she wants a construction set or a toy bulldozer.  Allow her to follow her own interests, whether or not you think it too 'masculine.'





One of the reasons there are more children declaring that they want to be the opposite sex these days (besides it being the fashion)  is the pressure to fit into a narrow role model,  and this is worse than it was 20 or 40 or 60 years ago.  Toys seem to be divided more along sex lines than they used to be - interesting things for boys,  and pink unicorns and glittery pretend jewellery for girls.  That is a good reason for any girl to revolt in my opinion.  So limiting!

Dolls and little model horses for girls?    Sure, if they want them.

And Lego and toy trucks for boys?   Sure, if they want them. 

But give horses to a boy and trucks to a girl if that is what they want.

And girls like Lego, and some boys like dolls.  

Do not limit their choices.  Let them be who they want to be without making them feel as if their sex is wrong.

There is nothing wrong with a boy being interested in dance or fashion,  nothing wrong with him not being interested in sport.  And there is nothing wrong with a girl being interested in whatever she chooses to be interested in.

Whichever sex they are, let them be who they want to be.  
Trying to force the stereotype upon them will not work.  

It is the second silliest thing to do in this situation.

So what is the absolute silliest thing you can do?

You can go along with their fantasy,  you can give them dangerous hormones, and even life-changing surgery.

And that is not merely the silliest thing you can do in this situation, it is worse that that. It is dangerous to their health. It can destroy lives.  Do you really want to castrate your boy?  Or allow your girl to damage her future ability to bear and to feed a baby?

There is nothing wrong with boys following 'feminine' interests, and there is nothing wrong with girls following 'masculine' interests.  

But there is a great deal wrong with harming their bodies to follow this nonsensical fad.

Once they are grown, you have no say.  By then, they may have grown out of the idea.  Most do.  If they have not, you can take consolation in the fact that at least you have not harmed their natural development.


And if you wind up with an effeminate boy.  Sorry, but some boys are effeminate, and some boys are attracted to other boys.

A 'mannish' girl?  There is nothing wrong with that, either.

So love them and accept them,  just do not encourage the delusion that they are anything else than what they are.